Posts Tagged ‘feminism’

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Some, (read: many men) love blaming feminists for creating terms like “Mansplaining” because they believe it paints all men with a negative paintbrush. This is not true. There are many men who do not mansplain things and are very capable of having conversations that are funny and respectful and sane. Of course because they are sane, they’re not accused of mansplaining. So what is this “mansplaining” anyway? According to ye ole google machine, this is what it is:

Mansplain Definition

allow me to mansplain

 

How does one mansplain something?

no such thing as mansplain

It seems that many men believe that their masculine parts (read: penis) equip them with a brain so superior to a woman’s, that on many topics he would be an expert regardless of the woman’s expertise, background, qualifications, or hell, even opinions. I’ve heard some people describe it as men who claim to be good at everything even when they clearly have never done said thing they’re mansplaining. But that’s just arrogance and assholery. As humans we are not capable of being good at every single thing we attempt or think about.

 

Let’s not be assholes or mansplainers or trolls. But trolls is a topic for another day. Today, just go out there and be open, engaging and if, as a man you feel the urge to explain to a woman why she should not feel the way she does, why she should see things from your perspective because you have one little clue about whichever topic you’re discussing…don’t. Embrace what everyone brings to the conversation, to our experiences, and to life in general. Don’t be that guy!

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A guy told me that I “shouldn’t dress in a masculine manner”. I assured him that I tied my neckwear, pulled on my pants, and buttoned my shirt with nothing but dainty feminine movements. As with many people who do not understand my humor (read: and are stupid), he didn’t even realize I was making fun of his comment.

Another male said to me that girls talking about a menstrual period in public is “icky”. I responded with the word, “thump” every time he said “icky”. He didn’t get it. Oh, and my crime? I asked a friend for some pain relivers because I was having cramps that felt like Satan himself organized a flash mob in my lower back.

Another dude repeatedly made snide remarks about a woman who has to use a private office, with the door closed, to pump milk for her baby since she’s breastfeeding. He said that no man wants to know what boobs are being used for if they’re not for motorboating. So my convo went as follows:

Me: You ever consider it?
Him: Motorboating?
Me: No, breastfeeding.
Him: I’m a man!
Me: Oh okay. Those 36 Cs with the rigid nips fooled me.
Him: *blank stare and stomped away*

Mansplaining? Misogyny?

Maybe…

Either way, while I’m not perfect, I’m learning to accept my body and myself.

Disclaimer: Oh, and I know many men who do not feel this way. To these men, I applaud and appreciate you for loving women and fighting for their rights.

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When did being a feminist become a bad thing? As I read regular news articles I’ve gotten a whiff of obnoxious comments about women, their worth and value, usually as seen through the eyes of men, as well as from blogs, personal and entertainment-based websites along with a few other buzzfeedy styled quizzes and for-grins entertainment style write-ups. I see the word “feminist” being used as if it is this horrible beast about to gobble up men, sanity, our sense of common sense and our lives as we know it! Why?

What is causing this shift in mindset? Or maybe the mindset was never there to begin with…? I admit that I may be quicker to argue points about why we should, or why we should not be feminists with a male, but this shift that I’m seeing is also from women. Yes, my own kind! The kicker? These are some of the same women who are paid less than a male for doing the SAME job as a male. A couple of people who wondered out loud in ink asked why feminism existed. These women argued that if society removed the rape culture that exists, a culture which unfairly makes women afraid of men, we as a nation would be better off. How crazy is that? Women aren’t afraid of, or encouraging a rape culture! I should be able to walk down the street bare assed naked and not be touched against my will. Sure, you can look as I am naked in this scenario, but don’t mistake that for willingness to be touched or fondled without my consent. Shouldn’t we teach boys to not attack anyone instead of attacking groups of women who want to protect other women, while ensuring they earn a fair wage and have the same political opportunities as a man does?

Is it a bad thing to want social, political and economic equality for everyone? It most certainly is not!

Why can’t we as humans, want the best for ourselves and each other? For example, if a man’s wife earns the same income as he does, isn’t that a good thing for the family unit as a whole? What about the expectations that a girl will have of her future husband? Shouldn’t she see that both her parents are contributing to a healthy and happy household which would in turn help her choose a mate that is just as supportive and loving?

I dare say homes that promote and encourage equality among children regardless of gender, as well as the adults regardless of job or income, etc. Will put forth some of the best people in our world. Shouldn’t we do our best to welcome them instead of building more walls with weak arguments for and against feminism and equality as a whole? Why can’t we just love, nurture, respect and appreciate what both men and women have to offer? And if you still think women have less worth and less to offer the world, try conceiving your babies without them, try having intimate relationships without them, and try living in a world without them. Then, when you realize that you’re in a sad, sad world, remind me why you are against equality for all.