Posts Tagged ‘kindness’

There is so much negativity in the world, so much abuse of power by those who are placed in positions of trust as well as sad and heinous acts, that sometimes my problems feel tiny in comparison. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel personal sadness or despair when betrayed by loved ones, when shunned for life choices, or when I’ve been stomped on by people who believe it’s their right in life to do so because of a position of power.

However, all is not lost. I’m working on taking back that “power” that I unintentionally gave away when I allowed others to set the tone of my emotions! How? Short of illegal acts (kidding! Only a little but staying in the clear because I don’t want to be traded for “favors” in jail!), I am working on focusing my emotions on positivity and creativity so that I can acknowledge what I’m feeling and not build resentment towards my own emotions. Emotions are emotions, (deep statement, I know, I know, LOL) but I truly believe that when we ignore our emotions or when we fight them, we give the bastards power; power to plant seeds from which the seeds grow roots in your mind.

I think it was Churchill who said, “If you’re going through hell, keep going”, meaning you have to go through it to get over it. Or something along those lines…

So if I can just get through thesr emotions with the initial stings and blows, I believe I will be that much stronger to take in the positive experiences and in return, share that positive, optimistic energy with others.  Being a better me seems to always be the best way to make and form great relationships with not only others, but with myself. While I may temporarily forget this, I’m reminded of it every time I take the plunge to try new venturess and take chances, stand up for what I believe in, and above all, when I remember to love and appreciate myself.

So here’s to hoping that as humans, we’ll find the good in the bad, share kindness even when it’s not afforded to us, share light, love, and acceptance wherever we are, even when the prejudice, bigotry and hate rain down on us. Maybe we’ll be that random, beautiful flower that albeit, a little scraggly in appearance, grows from the busted up concrete cracks on a dilapidated and dirty city street, no matter how many boots tread on it every single day.

Own your power, your emotions – good and not so good, and above all, be kind to yourself and each other. We’re all just trying to get through, and maybe even excel at this thing called life.

I wrote a new poem about a piece of what’s been bugging me. If you’re interested in reading it, let me know via email or comments (here or any of my social media accounts such as Facebook, Twitter, Vine, etc) and I’ll send you the password to unlock the view to it.

Love,
Natasha

There is so much negativity in the world, so much abuse of power by those who are placed in positions of trust as well as sad and heinous acts, that sometimes my problems feel tiny in comparison. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel personal sadness or despair when betrayed by loved ones, when shunned for life choices, or when I’ve been stomped on by people who believe it’s their right in life to do so because of a position of power.

However, all is not lost. I’m working on taking back that “power” that I unintentionally gave away when I allowed others to set the tone of my emotions! How? Short of illegal acts (kidding…only a little but staying in the clear because I don’t want to be traded for “favors” in jail!), I am working on focusing on my emotions as I just go through and acknowledge what I’m feeling. Emotions are emotions, (deep statement, I know, I know, LOL) but to ignore our emotions and to fight them is to give the bastards power; to allow them to plant seeds and grow roots in your mind.

I believe it was Churchill who said, “If you’re going through hell, keep going”, meaning you have to go through it to get over it…Or something along those lines.

So if I can just get through the emotions with the initial stings and blows, I believe I will be that much stronger to take in the good, positive experiences, and in return, share that positive, optimistic energy with others.  Being a better me seems to always be the best way to make and form great relationships. While I may temporarily forget this, I’m reminded of it every time I take the plunge to try new venturess and take chances, stand up for what I believe in, and above all, when I remember to love and appreciate myself.

So here’s to hoping that as humans, we’ll find the good in the bad, share kindness even when it’s not afforded to us, share light, love, and acceptance wherever we are, even when the prejudice, bogotry and hate rain down on us. Maybe we’ll be that random, beautiful flower that grows from the busted up concrete cracks on a dilapidated and dirty city street, no matter how many boots tread on it every single day.

Own your power, emotions and above all, be kind to yourself and each other. We’re all just trying to get through, and maybe even excel at this thing called life.

Giving thanks and food was the #1 topic in the U.S this past week. It coincides nicely with this post in my Wonderful Humans series. This wonderful human is someone I’m thankful to have in my life as a friend and fellow lover of good food and drink, Mara L. I measure friends in many ways, some of which include being fun, caring, thoughtful and generous and of these traits, she is all, and then some. She made the list not only because she’s a friend, but because she is a person with one of the biggest hearts that I’ve met in awhile, but not in a bad medical way or anything, and because she loves to feed strays like me!

This woman’s home kitchen skills is like going to a fancy, organic (soup?) kitchen for working folks with discernible palettes. I joke about the soup kitchen aspect because she feeds us for free and expects nothing in return. The meals she prepares are always nutritious and tasty with farm to table ingredients that are prepared in a variety of yummy ways. Let’s see, there’s been numerous ethnic styles of dishes and to top it off, or rather, whet our appetites for the middle eastern styled meal at a recent dinner, she hired a belly dancer to perform. Let’s just pause here for a second and take a poll. How many people have been to someone’s  home where they were treated to a surprise belly dancer performance? I didn’t think so…oh, and just ‘cause I know y’all, no, strippers don’t count.

While the free food and filling of my belly should be enough to fill this post, this is just one of the reasons I consider her a wonderful human. When so many were worried about the economy and the troubles that would befall them, she still opened her home up on numerous Saturday evenings to friends and their friends and significant others for dinner, without asking for anything in return. She wanted to continue perfecting her already amazing cooking skills and to find a way to connect with friends outside of social media.

Oh, and while we’re on the topic of living out loud and having fun, let’s just say that if fire-hooping and fun dance parties sound appealing, you and she have similar spirits. For those wondering, because I really do know some of my blog readers, she is a real person and not just an imaginary friend or firehooping fantasy in my head. Pfft.

What else…? Ah yes, how could I forget?! Kidding! I can’t forget to share that her husband is just as kind, cool and a friend as well. If not, how else would we still be eating free of charge at her house? 🙂 Goes to show that good people do attract other good people.

Oh, and just to show that not only do we eat and drink, which, let’s face it, is about 80% of what we do, they supported me at not just one of my mild and mellow, burn some sage and other incense at a poetry reading. No, these two were almost in the middle of the melee when a poetry partner and I hosted a poetry show at the Gladys Knight Chicken and Waffles restaurant, where obnoxious bar patrons heckled the poets all through the night. Granted, the show was sponsored by the alcohol, Patron. Needless to say, I never want to host a supposed mellow poetry show sponsored by alcohol again…I will just continue to take it in boxes to their house for the dinner parties!

Yes, some may say that this is just a post about a friend and yes, while it is, it’s a post that will hopefully remind us to enjoy some of the (dare I say, more?) important things in life such as having enough, and at times, too much, food in this country, and to hopefully, pay the kindness forward, and above all, cherish the wonderful humans in your life. Don’t wait for the holidays to show appreciation for what you have, do it every day.