Posts Tagged ‘misogyny’


A guy told me that I “shouldn’t dress in a masculine manner”. I assured him that I tied my neckwear, pulled on my pants, and buttoned my shirt with nothing but dainty feminine movements. As with many people who do not understand my humor (read: and are stupid), he didn’t even realize I was making fun of his comment.

Another male said to me that girls talking about a menstrual period in public is “icky”. I responded with the word, “thump” every time he said “icky”. He didn’t get it. Oh, and my crime? I asked a friend for some pain relivers because I was having cramps that felt like Satan himself organized a flash mob in my lower back.

Another dude repeatedly made snide remarks about a woman who has to use a private office, with the door closed, to pump milk for her baby since she’s breastfeeding. He said that no man wants to know what boobs are being used for if they’re not for motorboating. So my convo went as follows:

Me: You ever consider it?
Him: Motorboating?
Me: No, breastfeeding.
Him: I’m a man!
Me: Oh okay. Those 36 Cs with the rigid nips fooled me.
Him: *blank stare and stomped away*

Mansplaining? Misogyny?


Either way, while I’m not perfect, I’m learning to accept my body and myself.

Disclaimer: Oh, and I know many men who do not feel this way. To these men, I applaud and appreciate you for loving women and fighting for their rights.



Disclaimer: If you think this is about Caitlyn Jenner, Laverne Cox, Janet Mock, or Jane down the street, maybe it is. If you think this is about you, maybe it is.

Too many people are worried about where their world’s heading, about message to kids, religion, etc as if those are reasons to bash someone’s choice. A person’s choice is theirs. As much as some preach on about how horrible it was for ancestors historically, why are you wanting to make someone’s choices for them. Being forced to do something, be someone, or live a certain way stifles and sometimes kills.

Whether the gentleman next door puts on pants or a dress has nothing to do with your legs sliding into your own trousers. If it does, then close the blinds or leave or go to confession or whatever makes you feel better about you. Because it is. It’s all about you, not that person living happily. I’m usually all about teaching and bringing folks to a consensus that’s cordial. Today ain’t that day.

Look, many of you same folks aren’t even angry with bad situations in your own backyards, or the lying and cheating and degradation of society, or that person on a pedestal in a place of worship robbing you blind as you go to your po-dunk homes and he/she pulls into the driveway with the latest model European car.

Let me ask, what kind of world are those situations leading to? What kind of messages are being sent to your children?

WAKE UP!  Don’t like _________? Then don’t give it a thought or avoid it. Hell, no one needs your troll hole ignorance or negativity. But I really hope you join a positive group to make some change instead of just complaining. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

I post my opinions but try to do so in a way that the written word can convey my happiness, pissedoffedness, fun foolery mindset, etc. Recently, I’ve seen some (more) interesting and strongly worded statements on social media about religion, racism, sexism, religion and in general, how one should behave, respond, react, feel, or act, or wear at any given time. While it’s your right to have an opinion or judge someone else based on thoughts, style of dress, etc., I must ask a question. Ready? Who gave you the all powerful right to judge someone else or more specifically, who gave you the right to judge someone’s life, heart, intention, or opinions?
Dear religious zealots: Who gave you the right to judge others? Also, if you’re a member of a minority group wherever you live or based on you skin tone, life, etc., and you’re one of the people who are judging others, I have to ask, don’t you have enough people against you already? Why go around throwing fire on situations? Believe what you must, but shut da hell up  and let people live their lives.
Dear religious folk who use social media as a pulpit: You can be happy and follow your religion, but really, don’t you think you’re better served not posting only on Sundays, and daring to “call” others out because they don’t share your views? If everything is God’s (or insert your preference here) will, then why question or highlight anything? After all, it is God’s will.
Also, while we’re on this path, why is it that when something good happens, it’s God’s will, but if something bad happens, it’s the devil’s fault? If three great, wonderful, caring people are in a car crash and two live but one dies, I dare you to say it’s God’s will that they lived within ear shot of the parents of the deceased. Why? Because regardless of your beliefs, you need to stop and consider how others will respond when you say something. Also, refer to the paragraph above about God’s will.
Oh, and if all religions believe the other religions are wrong, then by sheer logic, aren’t all religions wrong?
I’m not trying to argue faith as a whole, just highlight the flaws with people’s general statements, and strong, almost “Internet troll-like” ways. After all, more wars were started in the name of religion than for any other reason.
With regard to racism: Every human has flaws. Some are just more flawed than others. Yes, racism exists. Those who aren’t in a minority class may not experience it as much as those who are, but let’s be honest, racism exists and those in the majority class witness it even if they don’t experience it first hand.
Dear white people: There will be numerous topics that you will unfortunately be blamed for, not viewed favorably if you join in, etc. even if you were not directly involved. Yes, it sucks. No, I don’t agree with that line of thinking. But compared to living day in and day out as a minority who experiences racism, consider yourself lucky that that’s all you have to be uncomfortable about. I know all white people don’t have mansions and a million servants but if your reality isn’t that bad, just understand that this is just one of the things your privilege affords you and let this one go. The same way some minorities can’t understand privilege, is the same way you won’t understand how racism acts and words can taint a person’s life.
Dear minorities: Not all white people are racist. Some are, while there are some who care more about civil rights and activism than some minorities. Try to take everyone as they are. If you encounter a racist bastard, address said bastard as such and move on. If you encounter a nice white person, enjoy the encounter and move on…
Oh and…
Dear minorities: Stop self-hating. It’s ugly and worse than the racist white person you may be raging against.
Dear sexist bastard: Your daughter or mother has to deal with your shenanigans and fuckery via other sexist bastards. Please stop being a misogynist pig. Women are just as capable as men when it comes to tasks, jobs, education, etc.
Dear Judgmental people: Stop judging others based on body size, opinions, choice of music, political party affiliation, material possessions, etc. If you have that much time to judge and post Facebook status updates and instagram videos on what people are wearing or doing, is that an indication of how limited, lonely or sad you are? If you need friends, go find some. If you need less judgmental friends, go find those too. They’re out there, I promise.

No one is perfect. I’m sure as hell not. However, I am trying to find my inner peaceful warrior to help me focus on what’s important in my life. In order they are:

Loved ones (humans and non-humans. I love my animal friends too!)
Enjoying great times and creating memories with loved ones and friends.
Living a full and fulfilling life.
What’s on your list?